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“Optimism is the hidden key to your personal success. Optimists possess a clear vision of an exciting life, confidently work on goals to achieve their vision, and take self-responsibility. In contrast, pessimists have no clear vision of a fantastic life, and they love to complain, blame, and moan.”

Been there, done that.

I’ve once an optimist, once (well, maybe more) a pessimist. No, let me put it this way, for everytime I am an optimist, I become a pessimist short after that. I believe it’s because of my environment which has a big influence in my personality.

You could have a friend who supports your decisions. She says, as long as you are happy, she’s with you on that decisions. You, being human, not satisfied with a part of the sliced cheese, you seek for another view. Comes another friend who you think tells it honestly. “You aren’t that excellent, you know..John* is a genius, of course he can do it. But you…You might have trouble with it later. But, it depends on you. If you want to do it, sukahatilah…” A VERY honest friend. Yes, she reminds you about your limits. She says that out of her love to you, to protect you from being hurt and failing. We always fall for the latter friend, since she is more likely to tell the truth (though it hurts), and it seems more realistic. Well, I fell for that,too.

Later, changing my decision to the less risky one, I felt save. How gracious I was to the latter friend who told me the truth. Because of her honest opinion, I was able to smile and stay away from danger. Until came a day I realized that I was stagnant. I still have friends around me, I learned well, but I did not think that I was growing. At that very moment, I started to wonder; how would my life be now, if I had follow my optimist side then?

Honest friend tells you who you really are (in their opinion, anyway). But brutal honesty, which may hurt sometimes, also put limits to yourself. They say things like “You look dumb with that orange shirt. But I don’t mind if you want to wear it.” They are saying that you can choose what you want to wear, but wearing it, means looking dumb. Look how these people put limits on you. The better way to say it, could be like “I won’t feel comfortable wearing a loud colored shirt in public. It attracts people. However, you look pretty confident in it.” By saying that, you are telling your friend that you might not choose to wear what she wore, but you do not mind having her in that attire. You are also complimenting her choice, by saying that she looks confident in it. No threat existed.

It is important to have an honest friend. They are the ones who keep you alert and remind you of the reality. Listen to them, take their advices, but reconsider them before deciding to follow it. If you are happy with the way things are around you, and you are satisfied with yourself, go on, make them tell you that you did a good job following their advices. But, if you believe in yourself, and you believe in reaching for the stars, do the impossible. Take risk and experience greater life. Yes, it is important to know your limits, but only for that you can take great leap over them, to explore a new kind of experience and most of all, to learn more about yourself. Now wouldn’t that be more interesting? =)

*Saje2 bagi pinjam name John

Energy vampires are people who suck our energy dry. Everyone can benefit from skills on how to cope with them. You can especially benefit if you are an “intuitive empath” who absorbs the pain and negativity of others into your body, and become exhausted by it.

Our relationships are governed by a give and take of energy. Some people make us more electric or at ease.

Yet others suck the life right out of us. As a physician and energy specialist I want to verify that energy vampires roam the world sapping our exuberance.

With patients and in my workshops I’ve seen their fang marks and the carnage they’ve strewn. But most of us don’t know how to identify and cope with vampires, so we mope around as unwitting casualties, enduring a preventable fatigue.

Here are some types of energy vampires to watch for at work and ways to deal with them.

Vampire #1: The Sob Sister

Every time you talk to her she’s whining. She adores a captive audience. She’s the person with the “poor me” attitude who’s more interested in complaining than solutions.

How to Protect Yourself: Set clear boundaries. Limit the time you spend talking about her complaints. With a firm but kind attitude say, “I’m sorry I can only talk for a few minutes today.” And go on with your work and life.

Vampire #2: The Drama Queen

This vampire has a flair for exaggerating small incidents into off-the-chart dramas. My patient Sarah was exhausted when she hired a new employee who was always late for work.

One week he had the flu and “almost died.” Next, his car was towed, again! After this employee left her office Sarah felt tired and used.

How to Protect Yourself: A drama queen doesn’t get mileage out of equanimity. Stay calm. Take a few deep breaths. This will help you not get caught up in the histrionics. At work, set kind but firm limits.

Say, “You must be here on time to keep your job. I’m sorry for all your mishaps, but work comes first.”

Vampire #3:The Constant Talker or Joke Teller

He has no interest in your feelings; he’s only concerned with himself. Initially, he might seem entertaining, but when the talking doesn’t stop, you begin to get tired.

You wait for an opening to get a word in edgewise but it never comes. Or he might physically move in so close he’s practically breathing on you. You edge backwards, but without missing a beat, he steps closer again.

One patient said about such a coworker, “Whenever I spot this man my colon goes into spasm.”

How to Protect Yourself: Know that these people don’t respond to nonverbal cues. You must speak up and interrupt. Listen for a few minutes- then from a neutral place politely say, “I’m a quiet person, so please excuse me for not talking a long time — a much more constructive tack than “Keep quiet, you’re driving me crazy!”

Vampire #4. The Fixer Upper

This vampire is desperate for you to fix her endless problems — at all hours. She turns you into her therapist. At lunch, she’ll make a b-line to your desk, monopolizing your free time. Her neediness lures you in.

How to Protect Your Energy: Do not become the “rescuer.” Show empathy but resist offering solutions. Be supportive but tell her, “I’m confident you’ll find the right solution” or sensitively suggest that she seek a qualified professional for help.

Vampire #5: The Blamer

This vampire has a sneaky way of making you feel guilty or lacking for not getting things just right. Whenever my patient Marie, a book editor, sees her boss she’s on guard; her boss had a way of cutting her down that saps her energy.

She always has a negative comment to make.

How to Protect Yourself: Try this visualization. Around this person imagine yourself surrounded by a cocoon of white light. Think of it as a protective covering that keeps you from being harmed.

Tell yourself that you are safe and secure here. The cocoon filters out the negativity so it can’t deplete you.

Vampire #6: Go For The Jugular Fiend

This type is vindictive and cuts you down with no consideration for your feelings. He says things like, “Forget that job. It’s out of your league.” These jabs can be so hurtful it’s hard to get them out of your head.

How To Protect Yourself: Eliminate them from your life whenever possible. For a boss who isn’t going anywhere try a visualization that put you at a distance from them, and refuse to ingest the poison. If you don’t want to switch jobs, realize he’s a wounded person; try not to take his meanness personally.

by Judith Orloff, MD

Are you in a bad mood or just unhappy? Don’t worry. There are easy ways to beat a bad mood or even a bad day. Good moods or a peppy personality is not a disposition you are born with or without. And, you’re not doomed to stay unhappy the rest of your life. Your level of happiness is a learned skill. It’s easy to learn. Anyone can learn to bust a bad mood or look at the world through more optimistic eyes.

In my research of happy and optimistic people for my book “Spontaneous Optimism: Proven Strategies for Health Prosperity & Happiness” I uncovered patterns and strategies. Practice these easy strategies in order to improve your mood and become more upbeat and optimistic.

1. Avoid Emotional Vampires

Do you attract emotional vampires or losers into your life? Are you a loser magnet?

Emotional vampires and losers literally drain our batteries, slow us down and make us upset. To become happier, optimistic and energetic — avoid emotional vampires. Unhappy people allow “emotional vampires” to suck their positive feelings right out of their skulls. Emotional vampires include people who put you down, criticize or mock you, or sabotage your dreams and aspirations.

Take survey of your life by making a list of people and situations you expose yourself to. Then, discard or limit people, habits or situations that keep you from feeling optimistic and happy. In other words, ‘burn your bridges’ if needed. Remember: Happy and optimistic people hang around with personal cheerleaders. Unhappy people surround themselves with emotional vampires.

2. De-tox Your Mind

You can de-tox your mind just as people de-tox their bodies. To get rid of negative or intruding bad thoughts, remember this “Rule of Happiness”: You can only keep one thought in your mind at a time. You can focus your thoughts on either pessimistic/unhappy or optimistic/happy thoughts. It’s your choice.

Unhappy and pessimistic people focus on gloomy thoughts of how they could fall down and not get up. They expect the worst to happen. Happy and optimistic people expect the best. So, houseclean your head. When setbacks or problems pop-up, immediately focus on finding a solution. Unhappy and pessimistic people focus on complaining, but happy and optimistic people focus on solutions.

3. Optimism and Happiness by the Numbers

Are you obsessed with negative thoughts that lead you to a bad mood? A simple way to become happy and optimistic is to count your way to more positive thoughts. It’s easy to become an expert at switching your negative and bad thoughts to more positive and upbeat thoughts and feelings.

All you need to do is focus on counting and switching your bad thoughts to upbeat and uplifting thoughts. Each time you have a negative thought, immediately switch to a positive thought or solution to your woes. Write a tally mark on a pad of paper each time you switch like this each day.

Your goal is to decrease the number of times you need to switch. For example, at first you may need to switch 50 times daily. In time, you will decrease it to 30, 20 or 10 times a day. If you are obsessively negative, you will become obsessively positive using this technique.

4. Change your body posture

Happy and energetic individuals take big steps, walk faster and stand taller. They seem to exude an endless supply of energy. In sharp contrast, pessimistic, unhappy and lifeless people shuffle their feet, take tiny steps, walk slowly and slouch. They appear lifeless and have burned-out their batteries.

Watch how you carry your body. Use the body-posture of happy, optimistic people, such as take big steps, walk faster and stand taller. Using these techniques will help you become happy and energetic. They are easy to carry out, and will create a positive domino effect with people in your life.

5. Watch what you say — and never say words such as “try”

To begin acting like happy and optimistic people, you need to learn what they do. Optimistic people act and talk in certain ways. For example, they use certain words. The words people use can affect their moods and energy levels. Changing your words can actually change your attitude and feelings.

Use “upbeat” words, instead of “upset” words. For example, you can say, “I feel overwhelmed” which is upsetting. Or, you can say, “I feel challenged …nevertheless I can do it” which is upbeat.

One of the most interesting differences between happy and unhappy people is that happy people never or rarely use the word ‘try’ or ‘but.’ These two words leave people feeling hopeless and not in-control of their lives. Happy people feel hopeful, and take tons of responsibility for their lives. The words ‘try’ and ‘but’ are excuses, and unhappy people have a bad case of ‘excus-itis.

6. Focus on What You Want & Not On What You Don’t Want

Worry is the #1 happiness and energy zapper. The fastest way to fill yourself with endless joy and energy is to stop worrying. How can you do that? Each time you have a negative thought, immediately switch it to a positive thought such as a solution to your woes. People who focus on solutions rather than problems are optimistic, happy and very high energy.

7. Pursue What You Love To Do and It Will Light Your Fire

The best way to start your day and jump out of bed with an enthusiastic mood is to find your passion. Find out what thrills you and you’ll find boundless new energy to jump out of bed and start the day with a great mood.

People who have no energy in the morning or even during the day are really lost souls. They do not have a real reason to get out of bed each day. Finding your passion or what thrills you in life can turn you on each day, light your fire and boost your mood.

Anyone can become more upbeat and optimist. When people use these techniques, they invariably feel a heavy burdens lift off their shoulders. They feel positive, upbeat, and confident. You only need a few minutes to put these tips into action. They can be your key to enhanced life including your health, wealth, and career success.

Remember: Optimism is the hidden key to your personal success. Optimists possess a clear vision of an exciting life, confidently work on goals to achieve their vision, and take self-responsibility. In contrast, pessimists have no clear vision of a fantastic life, and they love to complain, blame, and moan.

So which do you want to be —- happy & optimistic or unhappy and pessimistic? The choice is all yours.

© Copyright 2005 Maryann Troiani, Psy.D.

Many people make friends, only to lose them to emotional or mental distance, or by senseless arguments. It takes tact, mental and emotional discipline, and tolerance to avoid the kinds of distances and disagreements which so often lead the best of friends to the bitterest of ends. While by no means a guarantee for always having the perfect friendship, these few simple points can be the difference between a friend and an enemy:

#1: Be someone who can be turned to in times of crisis. This is so very important, and so often the one people fail at. Being a friend sometimes means putting someone else before yourself, especially when they are experiencing a crisis.

#2: Always encourage the best, but never expect perfection. Too many times, people will try for the unreachable, and fall flat. Be ready to dust them off and congratulate their achievement, rather than belittle them for their failures.

#3: Believe in their goodness. So often, friends begin a fight that becomes a feud over lack of trust, because one assumes that the other is somehow bad, usually because some third party has been making trouble. Always be willing to believe the friend, first.

#4: Keep an open mind. Sadly, many friendships go awry when people discover that their friend has some facet they are biased about. If the friendship is important at all, then put aside petty differences in race, religion, or creed. None of those should matter.

#5: Don’t make money the deciding issue. There is nothing worse than a friendship based entirely on greed. A friend shouldn’t be chosen on the size of their bank account, but rather on the size of your heart.

#6: Don’t make appearance the focus of friendship. A person’s height, weight, or other physical characteristics should never be the reason behind a friendship. If you can’t accept the person for who they are on the inside, rather than the outside, then beginning a friendship is certain to end in disaster.

#7: Never turn your back on a friend. Too many times, people make friends, only to turn elsewhere as the fancy takes them, or at the slightest provoking. To be a true friend, the skill of listening to the other side of the story becomes an important part of the equation. If you can’t listen, you can’t learn, and if you don’t learn, you never grow, inside.

#8: Trust your friend when they open their past and heart to you, and be willing to return the favour.

#9: Never gossip about a friend’s confidences. There is nothing that ruins a friendship easier than loose lips. What is said in confidence is just that - confidential.

#10: Be kind to others. We reap what we sow, as the saying goes, and the more kindness you show toward others, the more likely they’ll want to be your friend.

#11: Don’t be overly critical. Too many people today constantly second-guess and critique every move their friends make. This only leads to fostered resentment, and eventual fighting. Instead, only criticise when it is to the benefit of the person being critiqued, and do so in such a time and manner to not cause them embarrassment.

#12: Maintain a positive attitude whenever possible. No one likes a grumpy person, and a pessimist just brings everyone down. Try to remain upbeat when you can.

#13: Be willing to give. Sometimes, it is when friends are most in need that people forget about them, muttering such common phrases as “it’s not my problem.” In the case of a friendship, however, nothing could be further from the truth. Learn to give, whether it be money when a friend is in dire straits, or advice, when it is solicited, or even the hard truth when it is called for.

#14: Think for yourself, rather than of yourself. No one can help someone else if they spend so much time thinking about themselves that someone else ends up making their decisions for them.

#15: Be strong, steady, and flexible. People often emulate what they admire, and a person who can withstand crises of their own, yet still reach out to help and accept others unconditionally, can inspire the same in someone they’ve helped in the past. That is a sure road to a lasting friendship.

#16: Don’t succumb to bias and prejudice. Sometimes, people discard new theories and ideas based on their own beliefs, and refuse to even consider that it might be valid and right for someone else, even if it isn’t for them. By learning to accept these things as a part of your friend, you take a sure step toward earning their complete trust and respect.

In short, it is not how we mould others to our own ideals of friendship that keep a friendship alive, but rather how we mould ourselves to acceptance and assistance. By following these steps to self-improvement, the world becomes a clearer, brighter place.

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I got this from Miss Dayda (who always seem to be in different kind of daze). She said that she’s the straight talking friend, which I find it rather true..And thanks to her, I was able to breath in well. She’s the one I can go to to get honest opinion without being hurt by harsh words. She tells the truth in the most gentle ways. (though there were times when I acted stupidly & she said it so. Ha-ha) Love you, da..

Try On for Size

Friends are like shoes — and not just because both pals and the perfect pair of pumps can bring you profound joy. Friendship experts agree:
Just as your favorite old sneakers aren’t perfect for every occasion, neither is every friend. It’s crucial to have a colorful assortment of friends — from comfy to professional — to match the varied parts of your life.

Says Jessica, 31, of Dix Hills, New York, “When I feel low, I always think,’Well, I have a friend who is this and a friend who is that — the super-successful impressive friend, the crazy creative friend, the beyond-loyal friend, the since-seventh-grade friend’ — and it makes me feel better to be able to say, ‘I am so good at having friends that I’ve got them in all different shapes and sizes!’”

Why else are multiple friendships so important? What are some key friendships to foster? And what’s the best way to do that when we’re always so on the go?

“When we’re younger, it’s fine to have one or two all-purpose friends,” says Marla Paul, author of The Friendship Crisis: Finding, Making, and Keeping Friends When You’re Not a Kid Anymore (Rodale, 2004). “But as adults, when our lives and needs and interests become more complex, we need a diverse group of friends who cover all of our dimensions.”

Just as you can’t expect your great black loafers to work with a strappy sundress, you can’t expect your single friend to discuss at length the ins and outs of diaper rash. “It’s unrealistic to expect one friend to
offer everything,” says Jan Yager, PhD, author of Who’s That Sitting at My Desk? Workship, Friendship, or Foe? (Hannacroix Creek, 2004). “You’re drawing on the strengths and benefits that each one offers, not trying to mold someone into something she isn’t.”

Seeing different friendships for what they are can preserve and prolong them, as Eleanor, 38, of Syracuse, New York, discovered. “I have a dear friend who’s great about doing things only a close friend will, like helping me move,” she says. But Eleanor found it frustrating to confide in her pal about her single-woman hardships. “I hated her cool, no-nonsense responses — she’d basically tell me I just needed to ‘get over it.’ I would think, ‘She has no idea what it’s like!’ But then it hit me — her very long-term boyfriend became her husband. She actually does have no idea what it’s like!”

Since then, Eleanor says, “I’ve learned to appreciate what we do share:frustrations with work and politics, similar senses of humor. Now I know she’s not the one to call about dating blues. I have plenty of other girlfriends who relate to that!”

The Well-Rounded Friends

So what are the types of friends that will round out your social wardrobe?

The Work Friend.
This relationship is so important that Dr. Yager coined a term for it: a “workship.” Having an office pal, she says, “boosts productivity, makes the day go faster, and work more fun.” Sylvia, 36, of Brookline, Massachusetts, says her workship is the only reason she survives her “heinous job” at all. “She saves my life every day. We bitch about our boss, fantasize about changes we’d make if we overthrew her, share dirt on who’s good to work with and who’s not. And we laugh,” Sylvia says. “My husband commiserates when I come home, sure, but he’s not there.”

Just be on guard: If only one of you gets that promotion, things could get uncomfortable. Try to discuss it in advance if you can. Also, if one of you happens to leave the job, the friendship still has promise, says Yager. “Workships often blossom into friendships when they’re no longer workships — because then you can really let down your guard.”

The Friend in Your Kid’s Class.
Your kids are angels, no doubt, but thatdoesn’t mean they have an adult perspective on what’s going on in school. “You absolutely need someone to help you check out whether the teacher is really that ‘unfair,’ the sixth-graders are really dating, or the cliques are really that bad,” says Paul. For Nicole, 35, of Charleston, South Carolina, her co-mom keeps her not only informed, but also less isolated. “Almost everyone is all coiffed and perfect, and I’m just talking about the kids — so you can imagine what the moms are like,” she says. “My messy self really doesn’t fit in. Thank goodness for Lara, the one other mom like me, and the only one I can hang out with at the science fair.”

The Friend Who’s Known You Forever.
“This friendship is priceless,” says Paul, noting that when she recently bumped into an old crush at the
mall, there was only one friend she could call to giggle about it. “She keeps your memories alive by sharing them with you.”

“If I met her today we might not be friends — that’s one thing I love most. She’s so unlike all the friends I’ve made more recently,” says New Yorker, Melissa, 29, of her dear childhood pal. “Other people can learn all our buzzwords and inside jokes, but she and I invented them!”

Friends you grew up with aren’t just fun throwbacks; some can serve as sister stand-ins. “As a single only child with few cousins, I wonder sometimes who’ll lend a hand when my parents start to need more help,” says Corinne, 35, of Lexington, Massachusetts. “But I also know that my
friend Lucy, who’s been around since I was 2, will always be there for things like that.”

More Friends You Need

The Hobby Buddy.
You summon this friend when you want to catch a movie or concert, if you want to enroll in a history class or take a horseback ride. She may be the gal with whom you share a love of art and museums, or
your common interest may be river-rafting or crocheting. Many women find that a walking partner suits this need. “This friendship works because you share an interest and a sensibility,” says Deanna Kasuya, 48, of Ridgewood, New Jersey. “It’s very motivating to know a friend with a passion to start with. You speak the same vocabulary. And you also have this common need toshare your interest.”

This friend is important, psychologists say, because your significant other may not share many of your most abiding interests. Or you may simply want a gal pal or another friend with whom to discuss and enjoy them.

Deanna has an art buddy, a gal she meets once a month for museum visits in New York City. The friendship has deepened over recent years, and now she and her pal talk about life as well as about Picasso. “The passion in art was the introduction to our friendship,” Deanna says. “We looked at paintings together and got dewy-eyed talking about light and color. Then one day we let loose about our personal lives.”

Sally Muller, 45, of Bethesda, Maryland, treasures her walking buddy. At least three times a week, the pair loop their suburban neighborhood, starting at 5:30 a.m. The walks started for one reason: exercise. “We were neighbors who didn’t know each other well at all,” says Sally. “We just wanted to get out early in the morning, when the neighborhood was quiet.” Sally’s dog joined. The walking itinerary has evolved over the past three years and now includes a stop at a coffee shop. Sally’s partner has since gotten a dog of her own — and a divorce. Meanwhile, the friendship has deepened greatly. “We talk about everything now, from what to serve at a dinner party or which Lucy-Ethel sitcom we like best to how to handle our children. We both feel destabilized when we don’t walk.” But, Sally notes, the friendship hinges on! walking. “When you spend four to six hours a week in a format of walking, that becomes the way in which you’re most comfortable talking and confiding.”

The Straight-Talking Friend.
You know when you’re clear that you need to break up with someone…but just can’t quite bite the bullet? Talk to this friend. “We all need someone who’s honest, gets to the heart of the problem, and doesn’t sugar-coat,” says Marla Paul. She also won’t tell you the swimsuit looks good when it doesn’t, or that it’s okay with her that you haven’t called.

“My roommate, God loves her, shovels me full of truth and never lets up,”says Rebecca, 24, of Raleigh, North Carolina. “If it’s something she thinks I don’t want to hear, she’ll just stay quiet — and then I know what she’s saying anyway. Damn!” That’s the key with this friend, says Florence Isaacs, author of Toxic Friends/True Friends (Citadel, 2003): “Talk to her about what’s on your mind only when you want to hear it.”

The Feel-Good Friend.
“We all need a cheerleader!” says Isaacs. But the feel-good friend may cheer for you even without being all smiles and pom-poms. “My spirits are lifted the moment I hear my friend Rachel’s voice,” says Paula, 36, of New York City. “She never belittles, or tries to make things about her, or says one of those dopey things like, ‘You’ll get over it, what you need is a fill-in-the-blank!’ She really knows how much better people feel when someone just listens.”

And the feel-good friend isn’t there for you only when you feel bad. Says Isaacs: “It’s essential to have a friend who can be truly happy for you when good things happen, too.”

Relationship TLC

Now that you know which friendships are essential, how do you to find and/or nurture the ones you need? Making friends isn’t as easy as it was when you could walk up to another kid on the playground and say, “Wanna be friends?” Says Paul: “Friendships, along with our lives, are less stable than they used to be, and it can feel awkward to try to make new ones.”

Three key steps to making new friends and maintaining the relationships you hold dear:

1. Create a strategy.
You can’t make friends just by being friendly. Seek out running partners, knitting classes, mystery book clubs. (Helpful: check out social networking sites like Friendster.com and MeetUp.com.) If finding the time seems difficult, carve out one lunch or evening every three weeks as “Catch Up with Susan Day” or “New Friends Night” — whatever seemsdoable is better than nothing at all.

2. Be proactive.
You don’t have to announce “I’d like to be your friend,” but you do need what Paul calls “repeat exposure.” Pour a little social cement by seeking out certain people more than once; extend casual invitations when you can.

3. Sort your supply.
“Prioritize your friendships,” says Isaacs. You don’t have to officially “break up” with any friends you don’t feel the need to see constantly; just make sure they’re not siphoning too much time away from all the newer, or deeper, friendships that are worth the extra effort to nurture.

So take a friend-inventory today and see what type of friend might be great to add, which friend you could see a bit less of, and who you’re dying to catch up with right now. Don’t let a busy schedule get in your way. In the end, it’s friendship itself that lightens your load and brightens your day.

Greetings earthlings..
Hari ni “hari saje-saje” for me. Saje-saje je taknak tengok oscar kat tv tu, saje-saje je taknak pikir-pikir (like i always do these days - “days” merujuk kepada the nearly 4 months of “saje-saje” period), saje-saje biarkan anak kucing yg nadia bagi tu terkeluar dari tempat dia (so dat dia boleh curik sket makanan Belang), saje-saje buat keputusan nak tidur umah aini on her wedding eve (with my fellowship, cik anne & cik nade), and a lot more saje-saje to come (baru kol 10.55 pagi pun..)

Today, mase asyik tukar2 chanel tv sbb boring dgr ucapan TQ oscar winners tu, I stopped at TV3, just as Tini was saying something about how mothers able to divide their time for everyone else. She, as a single person, (of having no hubby or children to take care of) hasn’t have enuf time for herself pun, lagi nak spend for org lain. Hehehe…Even the selfish me agree to that statement (especially when I have all the free time & have no intention to share it with anyone else).

Spending time for others could be tiring. It depends on how you feel about it. If you do it with a sincere heart, by the end of the day, you’ll be thankful for the bliss it brought you, no matter exhausted you are. It’ll be worth the time spent if you’ll be able to leave with a smile on your face & singing happy songs. But if you are forced to do it, chances are, you might spend the whole time thinking about the movie you’d rather watch and end up regretting “volunteering” your precious time.

But mothers. These are the most wonderful creatures. They are the ones who put others needs before theirs. They are the ones who make you breakfast and lunch even when they are fasting. They are the ones who pray for your happiness & success even when you hurt them. They are the ones who back you up & support you all the way. Mothers are the only people who will always see the good in us, and this particular trait is the only reason that their love for us lives eternally. I love you, mak.. =)

Saje-saje je nak tulis tu…

The world is filled with good fathers. How do we recongnize them? They are the ones who are missed so terribly, everything falls apart in their absence. They are the ones who love us, long before we even arrive. They are the ones who come looking for us, when we can’t find our way home. Yes, the world is filled with good fathers. And the best are the ones who make the women in their lives feel like good mothers. Mary Alice- DH

Everyone enjoys a game of make-believe now and then. Of course, the ways we can play can vary greatly. Some tell ourselves that work won’t interfere with our family life . Sometimes, we imagine relationships as more meaningful then they actually are. Occasionally, we put on a show, as if to tell ourselves our secrets aren’t really that terrible. Yes, the game of make-believe is a simple one. You start by lying to yourself, and if you get others to believe you, you win. Mary Alice - DH

Control…to lose it is to put our fate into the hands of others, and what could more dangerous?. Mary Alice - DH

Everyone in the world needs someone they can depend on. Be they faithful friends. Determined advocates. Or a loving family. But occasionally in life, the people we thought would always be there for us leave. And if that happens, it’s amazing the lengths we’ll go to get them back. Mary Alice -DH

In a world full of darkness, we all need some kind of light. Whether it’s a great flame that shows us how to win back what we’ve lost. Or a powerful beacon intended to scare away potential monsters. Or a few glowing bulbs that reveal to us the hidden truths of our past. We all need something to help us get through the night. Even if it’s just the tiniest glimmer of hope. Mary Alice - DH

It’s not always that easy to distinguish between the good guys and the bad guys. Sinners can surprise you. And the same is true for saints.Why do we try to define people as simply good or simply evil?. Because no one wants to admit that compassion and cruelty can exist side-by-side in one heart. And that anyone is capable of anything. Mary Alice - DH
(This is one of my favorites)

Illnesses can take on many forms. Those of the body are easy to treat. Much more difficult are the hidden maladies that fester in our hearts. The secret addictions that consume our souls. And the diseases we deny that affect our judgment. To survive, we need to find that special someone who can heal us. But we can never predict who will have the cure for what ails us Or when they’ll show up. Mary Alice - DH

The world is filled with unlikely friendships. How do they begin? With one person desperately in need. And another willing to lend a helping hand. When such kindness is offered, we are finally able to see the worth of those we have previously written off. And before we know it, a bond has formed. Regardless of whether others can understand it. Yes, unlikely friendships start up everyday. No one understands this more then the lonely. In fact, it’s what they count on. Mary Alice - DH

Now and then, we all need a little help. So we ask for small favors. But it’s always best to be wary of those who eagerly come to our rescue. Because even the smallest of favors carries a pricetag. Yes, everyone has an agenda . Whether they admit it or not. And in those rare instances where there is no ulterior motive . We are so taken aback that we may fail to recognize the truth. That a loving friend has just done us an enormous favor. Mary Alice - DH