“sehr sub”

Extracted from Cleo, Dec 2005.

I was intrigued by an article entitled "Bitch Control".

Malicious, spiteful, domineering women who give everyone else a hard time = BITCH.

A bitch will crush your spirits, break your will and make you cry with the sheer force of her words. A bitch with brains will even scheme to make life very, very unpleasant for anyone who opposes her will. Bitches make friends best with other bitches (unless they are in competition with them), giving each other group power and collective attitude. The world loves bitches so long as they don’t have to have anything to do with them directly, which is fine by bitches because that’s just what they want: To be left to pursue their ambitions, to hell with anyone who gets in their way.

Ways to manage bitches:

1. Remain calm at all times - Bitches love it when their actions generate emotional responses (they like drama)

2. Take part in the bitching process - Bitches usually attack with the knowledge they gained (usually a gradual build-up ones) to test your waters and see what you are made of.To avoid being bitched, join in!

3. Don’t let her smell your fear - Bitches are opportunistic creatures. They go after nice girls and those weaker than they are, because every woman’s spirit they crush today gives them a good bitch-boost and makes them feel good.

4. Give the bitch presents - Bitches love receiving expensive gifts. Give them presents, for no reason and load them with an emotional obligation to always be nice to you. The psychology behind this is that bitches do not admit to being horrible people, and actually think of themselves as nice on the inside, tough on the outside (they call themselves such things as "assertive", "independent", "no-nonsense")

5. Let the bitch have her way - To defuse them. Bitches build their armour and characters with every fight they take up, whether they win or not. Every blow by, or to, them makes them sturdier and readier for the big time.Meeting with no fight at all just makes them weaker.

And dear men, take your seats and enjoy the show

I’ve just came back from a friend’s wedding. Not just some friends, one who hold the biggest friend-potion-of my heart. It was a grand one and I had the best time ever. Just what I needed to fill in my "masa menganggur".

I can say that I am very satisfied, for I had the chance to actually be there for a friend’s wedding -from the start till the end. Plus some multi-cultural wedding lesson. Phew.. A Javanese Malaysian Wedding is sure an experiental lesson. It was fun!

I’ve got to see how "painful" it is to manage a wedding. The plans, the appoinments, the mishaps, the unpredictable things that might happened and the best thing is - how one handles it. Very proud to say that kak gee handled it well. Bravo, Pn Fauziah! =)

It is rather messy if one fails to handle it well. I was once thought (and still thinking of it), "I don’t think I am able to do ALL that! Looks like I wouldn’t be hearing any wedding bells (for myself-that is) any time soon. (Sorry dear, we really need to think about this, over and over again- a 100 kazillions times more. p/s: yes, you make take as many years as you want, I’m VERY pleased with your decision). Seeing how kak gee worked the plans was exhausting, what more going through it myself! I need to take extra supplements for that.

But on the other hand, when the day comes..when everything falls into places, it could be beautiful. Like Kak Gee’s.. She was soooo gorgoeus with her classic looks embedded with all shades of brown and gliterring sequins. It was a blessed day (well, 3 blessed days!)

I didn’t feel it coming - until the day I was supposed to return home. Until then I realized that there she goes.. Someone so dear to my heart, has begun a new life. I always wonder why mothers cry on their daughters’ wedding..hmm..though I am not a mother, I kinda understand the feeling. Don’t get me wrong, I am happy for her.Honestly. It’s just that..

This is a friend who has always been there for me, rain or shine. She’s someone so close to me. Someone who understands me, which by a glance of my face, she already knew that I had just cried (yeah..yeah..I know some of you might laugh at this - hurm..funny how my eyes get so "kembang" like that even if it’s just a 2 minutes of tears). Anyway, as I was saying, this is a friend who had laughed & cried with me. A friend who had cared for me like I am this fragile china doll. A friend who I had sometimes get annoyed with (with her constant fears & lack of confidence). A friend who had motivated me with the strongest yet gentle words of hers. A friend who I had riden with through heavy rains (only to do the posting business..hehehe..). A friend who I had shared my dreams & my problems, my highs & my lows..A friend who has always been available. We had our shares of fights & various scenes of merajuk, but those were just to spice things up, kan kak gee? =)

I know that we will stay as friends..It’s just that it was so overwhelming to see someone I have once shared everything with - getting married. To commit to someone else for eternity. To obey her husband’s words till the last breath. I don’t know how to describe the feeling, but it was so oevrwhelming that I had to cry that day. and the only thing I can say to her is " Kak gee..jangan lupekan saya ye…"